A coward is someone who's too scared to do their job. That's it.
It isn't someone who acts in a way you don't approve of, nor is it someone who you just don't like. It's someone who committed to a job, but then traded their honor for perceived safety and security.
In my life's experiences, I've noticed that people tend to "get cowards wrong" in two main ways:
1. They call someone a coward inaccurately.
2. They give someone an undeserved pass by not calling them out as a coward at all.
In this list I'm going to break down the top ten clues that we can observe and know we're dealing with a coward. Now, don't worry...If one or more of these pertain to you, I won't tell anyone. Just fix it!
In a Tribe, an alliance is built on reciprocity and trust. If you ever observe someone doing everything in their power to not ask a favor of a brother, it just begs the question...
Why are they avoiding being in debt when in need of the resources of a brother?
It's simple: They don't want to admit, or can’t admit, that they need a favor.
This is a sign of someone who would rather trick or pressure an In-Tribe brother for resources than to put himself in a debt that may cost him his fraudulent reputation, or even something he's unwilling to give when asked to return the favor.
The brother who would rather trick you than ask your help is a dishonest one. They will drop you like a hot potato when the going gets rough!
In a meme I designed a few years back I pictured a Viking axe with the accompanying quote:
"In youth, we find our issue often to be underestimating our enemies and too quickly grabbing our axe. As we mature, a different issue emerges. We begin to overestimate our enemies and never grab it at all!"
Similarly, the coward doesn't have a point at which talking is over.
They'll want to "work it out", "be the better man", or "let cooler heads prevail”, no matter what happens!
Why? Because they're scared. It's not complicated.
EVERY man should have a line, that point when/where the defense of one's identity and reputation is of a greater priority than the risk and potential consequence of conflict.
"It takes a big man to admit when he's wrong..."
No, it doesn’t. It just takes a man; an honest one who isn't afraid to acknowledge he isn't perfect.
A man that can't admit when he's wrong to brothers or in-tribe, simply can't be trusted.
If you don't make mistakes, you're lying. If I've never seen any, you're hiding.
Being a man is embracing not only the process of climbing of your ladder of power but acknowledging the role of trial and error along the way.
The man who refuses to acknowledge his errors is both too scared to endure their consequences and too scared to adorn the status that fits.
1 + 1 = 2
It doesn't matter if two hurts like a sumbitch or not. The facts are the facts.
Too often, I've observed men rationalize decisions based on nothing more than choosing their path of the least pain.
If they were wholly unaware of it, I'd just call them soft or fragile, but when they know that they're doing it? Coward City, Baby!
Whether it's performing minor surgery on yourself without an anesthetic (been there), or giving your girlfriend your coat on a freezing night because she's more uncomfortable then you're willing to allow, pain has no place in the logical process.
It's simple. All you need to do is ask yourself:
· Does it need to be done?
· Is it my job to do it?
· Is the cost (pain, resources, etc...) acceptable?
If you've answered yes to any of these, then JUST DO IT!
If you're a man, you should find a woman. A good woman...and you should marry her.
I don't care if you're "old", and I'm not talking to you, homos.
I'm talking about a man's duty to help the procreation aspect of his tribe and, well, the propagation of the human race!
I hear a lot of this in today's MGTOW (men going their own way) movement.
Things like:
· "Marriage is for suckers!"
Well, considering that by EVERY statistical measure marriage creates more productive societies, men, and woman...
· "I'm not built for marriage"
Why? Because you can't hold down a job, stop throwing your d*ck into everything, and hate kids? Well, then maybe you need to start saying it correctly, i.e.: You're not good enough for marriage yet.
· "Marriage is obsolete"
There are many who would see this society of ours fall to its knees that would be eager to agree with you. As it stands, though, marriage is an oath that builds the types of bonds the greatest of civilizations have been built upon.
To those who say that marriage isn't for everybody, I agree.
It's for those men who have their sh*t together enough to be able to provide for, protect, and sacrifice for both the mothers of the tribe and the future of your people!
Beware of "the perfect man". He's either hiding his flaws or, worse yet, unaware of them altogether.
- Me
If we can agree that "pressure to power" is the method of both improvement and growth, what does that say about the flawless man who's yet to meet a challenge he can't handle?
It says he's floating around the bottom rung of his ladder of power.
The coward enjoys a level of status and success that he would never put in jeopardy over the commitment to his job. Simply put, if he feels he can't do it then he'll act like it's not on him to do.
As warriors, we understand that the glory is in the charge, the effort, the risk.
Even those who are called to Valhalla are the ones who've fallen on the battlefield.
Loyalty is an investment, not a debt.
We don't get to cherry-pick our moments of loyalty.
We also don't get to proclaim our loyalty, as it can only been demonstrated through our actions.
The coward measures what he considers to be "worth it" before acting. If he deems it too much of a risk, whether he's already given oath and obligation won't make a difference.
The warrior minded will start making decisions AFTER beginning to act in accordance with his oaths.
To be loyal is to treat the target of your loyalty as if it were bound to you, never acting in opposition nor treating it as if on the other side of the wall.
Children should be raised by parents, family, and tribe. That is the formula the universe has gifted us.
It's also the formula the coward rejects.
To remind you, a coward is someone too scared to do their job.
When it comes to their children the coward fears:
· Accountability
· Responsibility
· Rejection
· Sacrifice
The coward lets other people (often disconnected people) mold their children, but then has the gall to criticize the job these strangers are doing.
The warrior keeps the minds and hearts of their children within reach of his own, no matter the cost or sacrifice.
If everyone's your brother, what's the value of your brotherhood?
One of the most difficult realizations for the coward is that not everyone fits behind the wall.
What's that mean, exactly? It basically means that you can't give a f*ck about EVERYBODY, because no one has that many f*cks to give!
The coward isn't some altruistic saint, though. What the coward just wants is to get In-Tribe benefits from as many people as he can while NEVER having to defend a brother.
Hey, because if everyone's your brother, you HAVE TO be neutral, right?
The Warrior minded will always choose alliance over conflict, but he knows full well that the line of Tribe exists, and he'll give everything, up to and including his very life, to defend it!
Pleasure is determined by a system completely detached from virtue.
You can "feel good"...
· Shooting up heroin
· Getting drunk
· Banging your buddy's wife
· Engorging yourself with the unhealthiest foods
· Losing yourself in being a sports fan
· Becoming addicted to a television show
I could add mountains more to this list, honestly.
Do you consider any of these things to be particularly virtuous?
Have any of these types of "pleasure makers" ever created a strong family, or helped to raise a moral son?
Have any of these expanded the limits of personal freedoms and opened minds to the potential of man?
Have you considered that these pleasures allow another to exploit you for their betterment?
Does it even matter? Well, not to the coward.
The warrior minded doesn't pursue pleasure.
His is a mission of righteous drive and loyalty to tribe.
What feels good to him IS good for him.
We all should design our lives according to the legacy we wish to leave.
What great artist, after all, doesn't already know what his skill, determination, and time will ultimately bring to life on the blank canvas he brings his brush against for the first time?
Stay on Mission,
MC
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